Wednesday, January 9, 2013

don't rush the season you're in


I'm terrible at basketball, any sport really. I don't sing very well. I can't roller skate. My throwing skills are sub-par. And you'd be very disappointed in any fictional story I'd write.

But something I'm really good at?

Rushing life along; seeking out the next season; desperately wanting time to pass on to what is to come.

I hear a certain phrase in my mind quite often, "I can't wait until..."

And that reveals something awful about my heart: I'm ungrateful for the season the Lord has currently set me in. For whatever reason, I don't want to be living through it and yet God has a plan for it. There's a purpose for what I'm going through during any given point in my life.

The same is true for all of us.

We all go through seasons. There's the single season. The dating phase. The engaged season. And then we get married. From there we might live through seasons of poverty, wealth, failing health, loss, miscarriages, fertility, infertility, growing children, college, career changes, moves and of course the list goes on and on and on.

Not everyone goes through the same seasons. And the ones we do go through are on different time tables, for different spans of time. They are different for everyone because God grows us each differently. We're all unique. We all live unique lives.

As I write this, I am in a transition phase, between two seasons of life. For the past 6 months we've been living with my parents while my husband diligently sought a job that would support our now family of four. Two weeks ago, that job finally came to fruition and we were able to move into our own place. Right now I'm surrounded by open, half unpacked boxes and I couldn't be happier about the mess.

It was hard for me to accept the season God had us in last year. After all, who wants to be homeless, with all of their belongings packed into a tiny storage unit and living very snug with 4 people in 2 bedrooms in a home that isn't their own? I would never choose that.

But that's right where He had us. And honestly, I'm disappointed in myself for not allowing Him to grow me more while we were there. I was stubborn, as I always am. I impatiently rushed through it, unwilling to learn all of whatever it was that He wanted to teach me.

I didn't stop to enjoy the moments we experienced while there. As I'm looking through the photos in my phone of the past 6 months, this sense of regret comes over me. Instead of rushing things, I should have savoured them. Instead of wishing time away, I should have lived in the moment. Instead of worrying about tomorrow, I should have focused on the today.

And now, at the start of a new season, I can honestly say lesson learned.

Things are still far from perfect. But I'm pretty sure that life on this side of eternity will always be that way. Rushing the season we're in, just to move into yet another imperfect time in life is just silly. God gives us each day, regardless of the season, for His purposes. And instead of looking to what is to come, we should be looking at where He's placed us each day. Because, He has a purpose in that season.

Can I give you some encouragement?

To all the single gals: embrace the season of singleness God has blessed you with. It's your calling right now. Live it to it's fullest and spend your time pursuing Him.

To all the married ladies, wanting to have kids: enjoy the time you have alone with your husband. Pour into your relationship with him so that your marriage is a firm and strong foundation for your family.

To all the moms, ready for the kiddos to be older: savour each moment with your children while they are small, even the difficult moments. I don't have to tell you that time goes quickly when you have kids. You don't want to look back and wish you'd been more present with them as they grew up.

To anyone who is in a season of waiting: look to the Lord. Lean entirely on Him and trust His timing. Don't worry, He has a plan and it will work out for the best.

So here I am, ready to start this new season, which just happens to coincide with a new year. As always, I'm eager to see what God has for me, for my husband, for my children and for us as a family this 2013. I'm also eager to glean what I can and allow God to grow and shape me to be more like His Son. This season of my life belongs to Him. I'm ready.


  1. This is such a good post! You're exactly right. My husband and I are in a season of waiting right now--we're both in school and we don't feel ready to start the process of "settling down" where we live--we don't believe that we're supposed to live here long, but we don't know where we'll be moving next!

  2. Jessi, I'm in the "married ladies wanting to have kids" category right now. I know that it is not the right time yet, but it's hard with one of my good friends being 7 months pregnant. I needed a word of encouragement in that area today. Thanks!
    Alesha <3

  3. I easily could have written this. I'm SO good at rushing through things. Especially the last two months trying to get Doodad to sleep. I didn't savor my newborn enough and now he acts more and more like a baby. No more newborn cuddles all day long. I'm excited for you and the new season your family is in. I really wish we didn't live so far away!

  4. I cannot even express into words how great this post is. This is the exact thing God has been teaching me. I'm in a job I hate and searching for another, My husband isn't in a great job, and we're hoping to buy a house soon, and a lot of things are up in the air. God has been working on me to seek His timing and not my own, that everything is in His good and perfect timing. Thank you so much for this!