Our son, a combination of this stubborn lady and her stubborn husband, never took a bottle. In the beginning he would drink a little here and a little there, probably just testing it out, but he never fully decided to like it. We tried all kinds of bottles, all kinds of tactics. We tried one week and then waited and tried again. We tried day after day after day. Nothing worked.
He preferred the boob to the bottle. But who can blame him, right?
And so things were a little bit tough. And particularly since I started off his life with a baby-led philosophy. When he was hungry, he ate. When he was tired, he slept (which wasn't very often). When he was hungry, he ate. You get the idea.
So I always had to be there.
And don't get me wrong. I love breastfeeding. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I'm actually denying to myself that the little guy is turning one this month and we'll be weaning.
But then, we decided to sleep train Isaac. It was this post that convinced me to do it. Oh, how sleep training saved me! You see, when you sleep train, you also feed train. Baby is put on a strict schedule: sleep, eat, wake (as opposed to the usual eat, sleep, wake cycle). Now Isaac always slept and ate at the same time every day.
In the beginning it was hard. But things get better, fast. He was napping for longer and was in such a better mood because of it! He quickly started sleeping longer stretches at night and with just one cry it out session in the middle of the night, he's been sleeping through the night since he was 5 months. And now he can fall asleep on his own. He doesn't need me or a bottle and he gets good, solid sleep.
He would eat first thing in the morning. Then after his first nap. Then after his second nap. Then after his third nap. And then he'd wake up twice at night to eat. (This is obviously no longer the case).
The beauty of it: I can feed him in the morning when he gets up and then go back to sleep (while Ben hangs out with him) until he wakes up from his first nap!! This is the typical Saturday morning for us.
Or: I feed him after his afternoon nap and can go to Bible study or leave him with a sitter and he doesn't need milk or a bottle to go to bed!
My point is this: there is a lot of bickering that goes on between those of us who use cry it out and those of us who are attachment parenters. We need to stop. My husband and I chose cry it out and it works amazingly for us. In fact, I think the most common comment I hear from people (other than "he's so cute") is "He is so happy!"
We read On Becoming Babywise and decided to implement it. I had no idea how great it would be. If you were to ask me, I would recommend cry it out and sleep training.
As parents, the choices my husband and I make are the ones we feel are the best for our child. I wouldn't do something that I thought to be harmful for him. I love him too much.
And I believe the same thing for you as a parent. I know you make the choices you do because you feel that it's best for your child.
So no more judging, deal?