Wednesday, November 23, 2011

the story of us: part 6

start from the beginning here.

part 6: God had a different plan

You know how scripture says, '"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD' ~Isaiah 55:8? We can attest that the Lord was speaking the truth to Isaiah (not that there was any doubt).

Lots of us get married and have a "5 year plan", right? We plan to spend the first 5 years of marriage just the two of us. Once we've enjoyed our alone time, we entertain the idea of starting a family.

I have to say, how did we get to be so arrogant that we decided to take matters like these into our own hands? But I digress...

4 years into our marriage, in April of 2008, we decided it was time to give this whole "trying for a baby" a try. We figured that by the time we got pregnant and had the baby, it would be about 5 years. Plus, Ben was getting ready to deploy and it seemed logical to be pregnant while he was gone so he'd be home for the birth.

Oh plans. How they change. How our plans are not God's plans. Our ways are not God's ways.

We had no problem getting pregnant. We never have a problem getting pregnant. That same month, I had a positive pregnancy test. And in early May, Ben left for his 4th deployment. I was 12 weeks pregnant.

pregnancy 002

Many of you know the rest of the story.

It's pretty obvious that our plan was not God's plan.

In the mean time, Ben and I were able to experience a whole year and a half without a single deployment. That's a big deal for us! And how wonderful it was to be able to live like a married couple:


We went for bike rides to the beach, we took vacations to Seattle and Washington DC. We joined a growth group at church. We ate Mexican food every single Friday night (always at the same place). We spent birthdays, anniversaries, Thanksgiving and Christmas together. It was a welcome change.

Trip to DC 2010 099

But news quickly came that a 5th deployment was in the near future. Ben would leave May 1, 2010 for Afghanistan.

By this time, we had almost completely given up on the idea of having our own children. We had always considered adoption (and still do). We just assumed it would be far off in the future. However, not being able to have a baby yet, we decided to start researching adoption for now.

In fact, my plan was to spend the 7 months while Ben was away, looking into and planning for adoption.

God had a different plan, a better plan. On May 14, 2010 I took another pregnancy test and it was positive.


In case you missed it: part 1, part 2 part 3, part 4, part 5.


  1. You story is so touching and truly shows God's hands at work. So happy to have read this and to get to know you a little better! :)

  2. thanks for sharing this story... we are currently trying (i already have one) and not blessed as of yet. we are keeping hope. i look forward to reading the rest!

  3. Eeeek! I am so loving this story. So heartfelt.
    Now, can you pls use that picture of you and hubby under that beautiful flowering tree somewhere on the blog? It is stunning! :)