Thursday, October 20, 2011

my thoughts: a book review of Wild at Heart

Last year, while my husband was in Afghanistan, someone put a book in his hand.

And apparently it was good because he read the darn thing in about 3 days.

And he certainly couldn’t wait to tell me about it!

My husband has been a Christian for a long time, but there are few “Christian” books that he’ll actually give his time to. This one, however, captivated him from page one. I think it was the line, “My gender seems to need a little encouragement. It comes naturally, like our innate love of maps.” My husband, the navigation expert, the man going to school for cartography (map-making) was hooked.

What John Eldridge, author of Wild at Heart, was referring to is how men have an innate desire to explore, but most get caught up in the day to day. They are stuck in cubicles and the daily grind just trying to get by. But just as God created them from the dirt, they long to be out in the wilderness, exploring, discovering, wild.

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Ben, my husband, asked me to read the book mostly because we now have a son. I would also recommend this book to any wife, daughter, or sister of a guy. So basically, anyone of you who is reading this right now.

Eldredge writes about the 3 main things that all men long for: A Battle to Fight, A Beauty to Rescue and An Adventure to live.

But he begins by describing how exactly men bear the image of God. After all, the Bible says that both men and women are made in the image of God. But how? I think chapter 2 is my favorite; particularly the description of Jesus:
He works with wood, commands the loyalty of dockworkers. He is the Lord of hosts, the captain of angel armies. And when Christ returns, he is at the head of a dreadful company, mounted on a white horse, with a double edged sword, his robe dipped in blood... No question about it- there is something fierce in the heart of God (pg. 31, emphasis mine).
How often are we given the image of Christ as a weak, feminine guy with beautiful flowing hair? That is not my Lord. My Lord is as Eldredge describes: masculine, fierce, wild, dangerous.

Exodus 15:3 says, "The LORD is a warrior, the LORD is his name."

And that is the image men were create to bear! On page 85, Eldredge reminds us, "A man is a dangerous thing. Women don't start wars." Right? And what kind of guys do we ladies tend to be attracted to? (I actually just watched a TV sitcom episode on this very issue today).

I know I'm not the only one who fell for "the bad boy". You know, one who was dangerous; he one who was "off limits". I just happened to marry that one.

But sometimes I fear I've tamed him a bit. And while of course he has responsibilities and can't be off hunting and fishing and fighting in combat everyday (which he would, given the choice), I don't want him to suppress his God-given desire to be wild and adventurous. I want to encourage it!

ben with fish

So, needless to say, read the book. I could go on and on. I left out so much. This book is so encouraging for men to live the life they were created to live. For wives to understand their men and encourage their wild side. And for mothers to acknowledge that there is an innate desire in your little boy's heart to explore, so let them!!

If you've read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts. If you decide to read it, come back and let me know what you think!

Have a great weekend :)

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  1. Foundya on CaseyLeigh's Blog!
    New follower. :o)


  2. I love this post! I definitely agree that men need to be able to have outlets for their needs to be out doing man things. Just as long as it is a healthy outlet

  3. i have also heard amazing things about that book too ... thanks for sharing!

  4. This book changed our lives. My husband read it on our honeymoon, while I read "Captivating" and then we switched. Incredible, life changing books... I love this post! That pic of your husband in the swap is incredible. Your son is in good hands!

  5. wonderful book, and wonderful blog friend! blessings to you today!! :)

  6. new to your blog. :) I've heard of this book but haven't read it; thanks for the review - it actually sounds much better than I had previously thought it to be! Have you read their version of Wild at Heart for women?