Guess what! You're in for a treat. She wrote a little something for you!:
I was raised by a yeller. I'm married to a yeller.
I'm a yeller.
And I'm not talking labradors.
I'm a quick to anger, raise your voice, regret it later YELLER.
But I had it under control for several years, and I prided myself on that. I had worked hard to display major self control when it came to parenting. When the little ones frustrated me, I was the mommy who took a deep breath and addressed the situation calmly and gently. Rarely, if ever, did I yell.
And I will admit, I felt a little smug about it.
When my friends would comment, "You never snap at your kids. You have it so together!" I would kinda shrug and, well,Agree.
"I have worked really hard to control my temper," I'd respond.
But one day I snapped. After waking up cranky, I yelled at my kids.
And it didn't stop there. Losing my temper and raising my voice has became the new "normal" for me, and my kids are suffering because of it.
I could lay the blame somewhere and say it's because I now have three little ones to take care of, and I'm tired. My 9 month old is still not sleeping through the night. I could lay the blame on the recent death of a childhood friend. There are handfuls of things I could blame it on, actually.
But I think the real reason is pride.
Pride goes before destruction... Proverbs 16:18
When pride comes, then comes disgrace. Proverbs 11:2
A man's Pride brings him low Proverbs 29:23
It doesn't get much clearer than that, does it?
How can God help me to be a gentle, patient mama if I'm trying to do it all on my own? How will God receive any glory if I'm taking all the glory unto myself, patting myself on the back for a job well done
The Good News is that God has paid the penalty for all my sins, including any harsh words I've spoken against my children or anyone for that matter. That doesn't mean I'm off the hook.
The next step is to ask God to humble me. Help me to be a calmer mom. Help me to use kind words.
And I believe that HE will.
If I ever get another compliment for being a calm, loving and patient mommy, I'm not taking the credit.
It's going to Him.
He deserves it for being a calm, loving, patient father to me.
Thanks for having me, Jessi!
Please be sure to check out Jamie's blog. I'm guest posting over there today. And please give her lots of love!!
PS- Right now, I'm in San Diego soaking up some beach time with the little guy and lots of friends. I hope you enjoy your weekend!!